Matt Gannon

Ten things that being a young father has taught me

written by Matt Gannon

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When somebody young is about to become a parent, there are certain things that they’re told repeatedly: “It’s going to be so hard. Are you sure you want to go through with this? You’re going to have to give up your dreams, you know.”

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I became a father nearly two and a half years ago, at the age of twenty. I now have two children, and people are still telling me some of these things.

While certain dreams of mine have fallen down my list of priorities, I absolutely reject the notion that I must abandon them all together just because I have children. In fact, I have found that their existence has given me what I need to succeed. Life has a way of giving us exactly what we need, even when we don’t realize it.

I’ve picked up a few things along the infinite journey through parenthood, and I’d like to share some of this knowledge.

1) It’s all a matter of perspective

It’s easy to turn young parenthood into an excuse in life, into a reason not to fight. But being a young father is the reason I fight. I want a better life for my children so they can have the things I never did. I want to lead by example and show that no matter what, we should never stop trying.

2) Always have a safety net

When my first son was ten months old, I got hired full time at a local factory that offered a decent wage and full benefits. I thought for sure that for once in my life I didn’t have to worry about money. But I planned ahead and stashed some of each paycheck into savings, just in case. I was laid off three months later, just in time to find out our second son was on the way. Babies need things, and bills don’t stop coming. My savings saved us.

3) Prepare to accept a certain degree of mess

Babies have a lot of stuff, and it’s not easy to contain it to one room. I don’t like mess, but it’s easier to accept it and move on. It gets better. Be thankful your children have enough stuff to make a mess with in the first place.

4) It helps me connect with my own parents

My parents were the same age as I was when I became a father. As my kids get older and I experience more of parenthood, I understand more of my parents’ past actions. Parenting is very hard, especially when you’re young. This helps me to appreciate and connect with them on a deeper, more meaningful level.

5) Appreciate the little things

Whether it’s ten minutes of silence, some alone time with my girlfriend, or a hot bath/shower to relax, small things mean so much more when you don’t always get them. But the other seemingly small things, like little baby smiles and cuddling, make life that much more precious. And as kids grow, their little milestones like first steps or first words put everything into perspective. Life is good.

6) Don’t sweat the small stuff

Raising a baby dominates most of your life. Sometimes laundry or dishes fall behind on the schedule, and that’s okay. It’s important to pick your battles, otherwise life begins to become overwhelming. It’s not fun growing up in a negative environment. By letting things like chores slip every so often, you can focus on the better things in your day, like playing with your child or cuddling with your partner. Life is short so enjoy the ride.

6) Being a kid is awesome

Everything has magic and wonder, but when we get older it’s harder to see. But not for children. I admire the imagination and creativity that kids have, and I use my son’s daily playtime to retrain myself to remember the way I used to be. Life was about having fun and being happy. There was no worry of bills or fulfilling my purpose. I miss being a kid, but raising one helps me feel that way again.

7) Being a dad makes you tougher

If your family needs something, you make it happen. Your resolve strengthens and you are not afraid to do what you have to. Your family’s needs come first, and everybody else second.

8) Being a dad also makes you more sensitive

I now have more of a weakness for the wellbeing of all children, not just my own. I’m more compassionate towards the needs of children, and for other struggling parents. Looking at the news is always a mistake.

9) Relationships will require more work

Parenting becomes top priority and is very time consuming, so it’s easy to forget that there’s a relationship with your partner to nurture. Somewhere between the diaper changing, feeding, and sleepless nights, it’s easy to forget that you’re not just a parent-machine, but an adult with complex thoughts and emotions. Take some time each day to just be a couple, even if it’s a slow kiss, a hug, or an eye-locking “I love you”. Your partner is a top priority too. Don’t lose yourself in the ebb and flow of the daily grind.

10) Family is everything

Life is so much better when we have loved ones to share it with.

These are just ten things I’ve learned in the short time I’ve been a parent, and the great thing about this is that the list will grow indefinitely. As our children grow and learn, so do we. One will find that children can do a great deal of teaching if only we pay attention.

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  1. Hey I tried to comment earlier but was un able to. Instead of love to hear what you have to say about how I wanna reply to your post as a dad and as a husband who loves his wife so much! 13 years together I have alot more to say if anyone wants to hear
  2. Hello, my name is Ivan im 15 almost 16. Me and my girlfriend want a baby so we gonna make it i just need some tips what spuld i do in time my girl is pregnant. I know it is not the age but we are planning it. I think my desicion is good at this time boecuse i want to stay forever with my partner shes now all i have and what i want in future. I have job for scoohl but im planning to get nornal job and drop off school so i can get some money before baby come
  3. Hey guys, my name is Siya I'm 23, im from South Africa my girlfriend is pregnant and its almost time for her to give birth I'm very scared and don't know how to react I'm doing my internship at some company and earning very little money. I'm living with my great grandma and I'm the one providing for her and myself I'm just feel overpowered by all that going on in my life i just feel like sometime could just disappear but the thing is that i know all this is a blessing and God will be with me in all of this.
  4. Hey man, Im bryan,22, the week before my girlfriend tolf me she thought she was pregnant and we did a test which find out to be positive.At 1st we already thought of abortion but then today we went for an echo i found out that she was already 4 and a half months pregnant and she didn't even knew it, zero symptomes , and we found out that it is going to be a baby girl and also hearing her heart beat make our descision to choose abortion very confusing about what we are going to do.But the after a long cpnversation with her we finally decided to keep her and try to give our best to give her a good future. Reading this inspired me futhermore to follow this path and become a young dad. It sure won't be the easiest thing to do but she's completely worth it.
  5. Hey matt my name is ryan trott im 18 from new zealand and my girlfriend is 21 with two kids i think my girlfriend might be pregnant and i dont think im ready to be a dad just yet like i wanna be one but im just scared i wanna find out shes pregnant but its too early yet and the suspence is killing me cause i work a low wage job and i dont wanna raise a kid on my pay i wanna prepare for a good job but idk if shes actually pregnant please help me
    1. Bro all u have to do is go to ur nearest clinic and find out and it, meanwhile save up what u can from ur wage...


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